The Engaged Life #9: Perception of Career

Setting up for Big SoCal Euro in 2015. It was a 14 hour day in 95 degree weather.

Hey all. This one is going to be a short one. Like I mentioned on the podcast, I’m in the middle of a job hunt and filtering through the offers I am getting. I know I’m fortunate enough to have multiple offers to have to filter, but it’s still something that I’m not taking lightly.

I’ve actually mentioned this in every one of my interviews, and my priorities have changed significantly since my last job hunt, which was about 5 years ago. It’s quite surprising to me how much things can change in such a short amount of time. I’m still young enough to pull long hours and neglect my personal life in exchange for riches, but I don’t want to be that person if I also want to start a family. Those 2 philosophies are in direct conflict with one another.

As I’m filtering through my job offers, I’m actually considering things like % travel, title, commute, hours, stress, and office culture. In my 20s, I didn’t care about any of that. I didn’t mind 50% international travel. I’ll gladly take a lower title if I still get paid more. I don’t mind the overtime as long as it helps me get on the path to better pay. For a good year and a half, I worked 2 jobs and pulled 60 hours a week easily. Don’t get me wrong, that life is exciting. Being constantly busy is great at that age. It keeps you out of trouble. It also helps keep your vices in check the sooner you start using the money you earn towards it. Can’t afford the clothes you really want because you spent it on beer and cigarettes? Too bad, looks like you have to wait until the next paycheck and cut back on stuff you don’t need.

Fast forward to now, I’m still as much of a salesman as I ever was, but there’s been a shift in attitude. Lower stress is important. Less hours is really important. I’d rather not do overtime for the sake of wages, I’ll do it for the sake of saving time later on in the week. Staying domestic is really important. I grew up with a dad that was gone up to 6 months a year for work. I have really close friends that have to say bye to their newborns for weeks at a time for work. Traveling for work sucks too. I’d rather not have to if I don’t need to. Stability. Comfort. Flexibility. These are the key factors for me now.

Unlike my other posts, this one isn’t so much any advice I can give or any theory that I have, insomuch as insight into what’s going on in my head right now. Maybe if you’re reading this you can reflect on how your perception of career has changed, new grad until now.

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Is an Office Relationship a Good Idea? – S2E16

Office relationships? I started watching the 2017 version of Dynasty on Netflix; I am not embarrassed to admit it. The show starts off with Blake Carrington, CEO of Carrington Atlantic, marrying his colleague, Cristal Flores. Granted this is a television show and it may not be aligned with real life, but I think a lot of people are in this situation; have dual roles with work relationships and personal relationships. As I watched the show I realize the love and work relationships can be very complicated. Today, TRP explores office relationships.

Is an Office Relationship a Good Idea? Outline

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