Are You Annoyed With Relationship Double Standards? – S2E42

Are You Annoyed With Relationship Double Standards?

 

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We’ve been doing a number of workcentric episodes so Andrey felt like it would be a good time to switch it back to talking about romantic relationships. Namely, he wanted to talk about double standards. There’s this article on lovepanky.com named “12 Double Standards in Relationships & Why They’re Toxic AF.” 12 is kind of a lot so let’s go with the ones that stand out the most and see how many we can get through.

Are You Annoyed With Relationship Double Standards? Outline

  • Making fun of clothing choices.
    • Typically speaking, women can make fun of men’s fashion choices, but it seems so faux pas for men to turn the tables.
  • Rules about who you can and can’t hang out with.
    • This one isn’t very gender or orientation specific. Sometimes partners are held to different standards when it comes to who they’re “allowed” to hang out with.
  • Initiating the first moves – or any moves.
    • This one goes back to our episode about dates vs meetups. It’s the archaic notion that men need to initiate any action in hetero relationships.
  • Not having sex when you don’t want to.
    • Seems like it’s more acceptable when women do this than when men do.
  • Being demanding and controlling.
    • It generally seems to be more socially okay for the woman or the wife to be the ultimate decision maker. If the man is, then he’s considering too controlling of a person.
  • Having someone else buy you drinks.
    • Once again, it seems to be more acceptable for a woman to accept drinks than it is for men to.
  • Seeing any movie she likes but she never sees his.
    • This could also refer to any social activity, whether it be conventions or shows. You often hear about husbands getting dragged places to where it’s a stereotype. This may or may not be true anymore, but I’m sure all of us have been in this situation.
  • There’s also another similar article written from a woman’s perspective. Given that we don’t have a woman on the show this week, it wouldn’t be fair to give our opinions on it, but if you want to read that side of it, be sure to check out the link in the copy. We may want to revisit this topic again.
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Lesbihonest: Being Gay, Female, and Asian – S2E5

Ever since TheRelationshiPodcast started this podcast, we’ve been dying to get a second opinion about the stuff we talk about from someone that’s not a hetero Asian American male.  Andrey reached out to a pool of personal friends and low and behold Fefe appeared and graciously volunteered to be on the show.  Lesbihonest: Being Gay, Female, and Asian is Episode 5.

Being Gay, Female, and Asian Outline

  • Challenges that accompany being Asian American and lesbian.
  • Is there Asian fetishism in the LGBT community?
  • Are there gender roles in a lesbian relationship?
  • Monogamy and open relationships.
  • Racism amongst and outside of the LGBT?
  • Bisexuality & Bicuriousity and it’s perception in the LGBT.

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Break Ups and Downs: Learning from the Relationship – S2E2

This lady may be pondering about her past break ups...

Break ups, unless you’re still with the first person you’ve ever been with, you’ve had to deal with a break up at some point of your life. It’s basically an inevitability. It’s not always a bad thing. Sometimes things just don’t work out. Sometimes your partner gets a little crazy. Sometimes you get a little crazy. Most people aren’t fortunate enough to meet someone who turns them into the best version of themselves on their first try.  Welcome to our episode of Learning from Relationship Break Ups and Downs.

Break Ups and Downs: Learning from the Relationship Outline

  • What was your worst break up ever?
  • Have you had a good break up?
  • How do you deal with a break up?
  • Have you ever been in a relationship that should’ve ended, but you just stuck with it?
  • Have you ever broken up with someone and regretted it?

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Valentine’s Day for Singles and Couples – S2E1

Welcome to Valentine’s Day for Singles and Couples.  If you are not in the know, Valentine’s Day is on Wednesday, February 14th this year.  Make sure you guys or gals mark it on your calendar and/or set a reminder alert.  In this special episode, TheRelationshiPodcast team discusses how we tackled this special day when we were single vs. not single.

Here are some interesting statistics about Valentine’s Day brought to you by Statistic Brain:

  • Average annual spending: $13B
  • % of all flowers purchased by men: 73%
  • % of women who send themselves flowers: 14%
  • Amount the average consumer spends on Valentine’s Day: $116.21
  • % of women who would end their relationship if they didn’t get anything for Valentine’s Day: 53%
  • Average number of children conceived on Valentine’s Day: 11,000

The Valentine’s Day for Singles and Couples Outline

  • Singles
    • How do you guys get a last minute date?
    • How do you plan the right spots for the occasion?
    • How do we get out of a bad date?
    • How do you ask for a second date?
    • Is sex always an option if it presents itself on a first date?
  • Couples
    • How do you plan something for your significant other?
    • How do you decide the right spots for the right occasion?
    • How do you fix a horrible date night with your significant other?
    • How do you keep the fire alive after a long relationship?

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Sex Debate: Morning, Night, Anytime? – S1E13

Sex Debate: Morning, Night, Anytime?

 

 

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Men and women have sex (Yaaaass, please!!).  Men and Men have sex (Is that a banana in your pocket or are you happy to see me?).  Women and Women have sex (Meeoow).  The greatest part of being human is to have SEX, especially if you are in a loving and committed relationship.  Well, it occasionally occurs when you are not in love and/or committed as well.  However, is there a time of day that you prefer to have sex?  Most of the time the TRP Team agree on things, but it seems we differ in when we like to bump uglies.  Therefore, this episode is the great 2017 Sex Debate: Morning, Night, Anytime?  This topic “came” about from Debatable on Buzzfeed “Morning Sex Vs. Night Sex.”  You can watch it HERE.

Sex Debate: Morning, Night, Anytime? Outline

  • Who initiates more sex regardless of the hour, Men or Women?
    • Why?
  • Morning Sex:
    • What are the Pros?
    • What are the Cons?
  • Night Sex:
    • What are the Pros?
    • What are the Cons?
  • Doesn’t matter (Anytime and/or surprise) had Sex:
    • What are the Pros?
    • What are the Cons?

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Episode 12 (Recap) –The Bar of Standards.  Check it out here.

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The Bar of Standards – S1E12

The bar of standards, how far will you go to achieve your level of success?

In the previous discussion on Improve Yourself Before Dating (episode 11), Ryan mentioned The Bar of Standards; not the bar at The Standard Hotel.  Ryan thought this would be a great episode because everyone has this “bar” in reference to our partners and potential partners.  Meaning that everyone has their own criteria when choosing a partner.  Lets find out and get to the top (or bottom) of this.

The bar of standardS Outline

  • How do you define “The Bar of Standards?”
    • Are there differences of this Bar between Men and Women?
  • Are there levels to your Bar of Standards or just one baseline?
    • If so, when do you feel the need to adjust?
  • With all the topics we’ve covered so far this season, which ones create the biggest impact to setting this bar? Is it any of the following:
    • Communication Differences (Episode 7)
    • Cultural Barriers (Episode 3)
    • Deal Breakers (Episode 5)

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Episode 11 (Recap) – Improve Yourself Before Dating.  Check it out here.

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Do You Booboo – Improving Yourself Before Dating – S1E11

Improve yourself before dating, do people follow said advice?

Improving Yourself Before Dating, a cliche’ idea one of audience members suggested mentioned we should do an episode based around this central idea.  This is a great topic choice because a majority of us learn something about ourselves in every relationship; whether successful or not.  Special thanks to BooBoo for filling out our survey and making this awesome topic choice for today.  We hope to answer all of your questions!!

Improving Yourself Before Dating Outline

  • First of all, do you guys actively try to improve yourselves?
  • What are some of the things that you guys do to improve yourselves?
    • Hobbies, skills, discipline?
  • Have you ever directly observed the benefits of doing this?
    • Examples
  • What suggestions would you give to someone who doesn’t actively do this, but wants to?
    • Tips, tricks, advice
  • Why do you think it’s important for someone to actively improve themselves?

The song that Andrey refers to towards the end of the podcast is Brother Ali – Picket Fence (lyrics):

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Episode 10 (Recap) – Dating Alpha Women.  Check it out here.

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Dating Alpha Women – S1E10

Dating Alpha Women

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We dive into dating alpha women.  Ryan and I had a brief conversation about potential collaborations.  He mentioned a trio of woman that had a podcast–ABG Podcast, which is a trio of women.  At first I thought ABG was short for Asian Baby Girls (which made me less interested), but it was Asian Boss Girls instead (which drew me back in).  I thought about it and contrasted how much different women TODAY are compared to women 40 years ago.  Today there are a lot more opportunities for women than before.  Women today are much more highly educated, hold more powerful positions in business, they are in all industries that were previously dominated by men, have a lot of expendable income, and they just have the power of freedom to do whatever they want.  Lets go!!

Dating Alpha Women Outline

  • What is your definition of an Alpha Woman?
  • Have you ever dated an Alpha Woman?
  • Generally speaking, do you think it is difficult for men (or women) to date a strong, independent woman?
  • Do you think it is harder for Alpha Woman to find partners?
  • What qualities does a man (or woman) need to date an Alpha Woman?
  • What kind of men (or women) have a tendency to prefer a Alpha Woman?
  • Discussion Reference: How To Date An Alpha Female by Madeline Haller. Read here.

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Episode 9 (Recap) – Five Stages of a Relationship by George Levinger.  Check it out here.

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Five Stages of a Relationship by George Levinger – S1E9

Five stages of a Relationship are similar to the many levels of infrastructure within a freeway
Ryan highlights the Five Stages of a Relationship by George Levinger. The TRP team reviews all these stages: Acquaintance, Build-up, Continuation, Deterioration, and Termination. John wants to put this in modern terms so he refers to these stages as “Eat and Greet, Second Entree, Autopilot, Ready to Bounce, and Ghosting.”

Background on George Levinger:

  • Pioneered research on interpersonal attraction and close relationships.
  • Publishing dozens of articles including:
    • Close Relationships: Perspectives on the Meaning of Intimacy
    • Divorce and Seperation: Context, Causes, and Consequences
    • Close Relationships
  • Professor of Psychology at University of Massachusetts, Amherst from 1965 to 1992.
  • Passed away on July 3, 2017.

Five Stages of a Relationship by George Levinger

  1. Acquaintance: Relationship starts with mutual attraction.
  2. Build-up: Couples become increasingly interdependent.
  3. Continuation: Couple’s lives becomes intertwined.
  4. Deterioration: Bond breaks cost overshadows rewards.
  5. Termination: The relationship ends due to deterioration.

fIVE Stages of a Relationship Outline

  • Do you agree with the order of these terms? Why or why not?
  • Do you agree with the definition of these terms? Why or why not?
  • Are there any stages missing from this list?
  • Discussion Reference: 5-stage model – George Levinger 1980. Read here.

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Episode 8 (Recap) – Lets Talk About Guy Time. Check it out here.

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Decoding What Guys Say. Do We Mean What We Say? – S1E7

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Some of the biggest obstacles in a relationships is communication and misinterpretation.  John and the team will be decoding what guys say on this episode for women and/or men.  John dubs this subject topic as “What He Said, What She Hears, What He Means.”  John compiled a list of phrases that men use.  Andrey perceives what women hear.  Ryan explains what men actually mean.  Shenanigans ensue.

Decoding what guys say Outline

  1. “It’s not you, it’s me.”
  2. “She’s just an old friend.”
  3. “We’ll have to catch up sometime.”
  4. “I don’t want anything serious right now.”
  5. “Lets take a break.”
  6. “It’s fine.”
  7. “It’s a guy thing.”
  8. “How do you know that guy?”
  9. “That’s interesting, dear.”
  10. “We should start exercising.”

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Episode 6 (Recap) – Cohesiveness allows for a healthy relationship.  Check it out here.

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