Dating Coaches, Clinginess, Delaying Family – S3E60

Dating Coaches, Clinginess, Delaying Family

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The TRP team decided to change the format of our episodes moving forward. This is so each of us gets a chance to talk about a topic that is important to each of us. Plus, this gives our listeners a chance to hear a variety of topics. Sometimes the variety of life is better, right? Today, we discuss dating coaches, clinginess, and delaying family.

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Would You Rather Raise Children, Pets, or Plants? – S3E59

Would You Rather Raise Children, Pets, or Plants?

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The question of whether you want to raise a family is something we all have to decide. It seems like today, people have taken the term ‘family’ and flipped it on its head. Ryan wants to talk about the pros/cons of raising any of these of elements and if it’s actually worth it for you.

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The Engaged Life #9: Perception of Career

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Setting up for Big SoCal Euro in 2015. It was a 14 hour day in 95 degree weather.

Hey all. This one is going to be a short one. Like I mentioned on the podcast, I’m in the middle of a job hunt and filtering through the offers I am getting. I know I’m fortunate enough to have multiple offers to have to filter, but it’s still something that I’m not taking lightly.

I’ve actually mentioned this in every one of my interviews, and my priorities have changed significantly since my last job hunt, which was about 5 years ago. It’s quite surprising to me how much things can change in such a short amount of time. I’m still young enough to pull long hours and neglect my personal life in exchange for riches, but I don’t want to be that person if I also want to start a family. Those 2 philosophies are in direct conflict with one another.

As I’m filtering through my job offers, I’m actually considering things like % travel, title, commute, hours, stress, and office culture. In my 20s, I didn’t care about any of that. I didn’t mind 50% international travel. I’ll gladly take a lower title if I still get paid more. I don’t mind the overtime as long as it helps me get on the path to better pay. For a good year and a half, I worked 2 jobs and pulled 60 hours a week easily. Don’t get me wrong, that life is exciting. Being constantly busy is great at that age. It keeps you out of trouble. It also helps keep your vices in check the sooner you start using the money you earn towards it. Can’t afford the clothes you really want because you spent it on beer and cigarettes? Too bad, looks like you have to wait until the next paycheck and cut back on stuff you don’t need.

Fast forward to now, I’m still as much of a salesman as I ever was, but there’s been a shift in attitude. Lower stress is important. Less hours is really important. I’d rather not do overtime for the sake of wages, I’ll do it for the sake of saving time later on in the week. Staying domestic is really important. I grew up with a dad that was gone up to 6 months a year for work. I have really close friends that have to say bye to their newborns for weeks at a time for work. Traveling for work sucks too. I’d rather not have to if I don’t need to. Stability. Comfort. Flexibility. These are the key factors for me now.

Unlike my other posts, this one isn’t so much any advice I can give or any theory that I have, insomuch as insight into what’s going on in my head right now. Maybe if you’re reading this you can reflect on how your perception of career has changed, new grad until now.

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1.06 The Don’t Suck At Life: Love Your Family

Remember to always love your family. My aunt passed away on Thursday, March 12, 2018. She was laid to rest on Wednesday, March 18, 2018. Auntie Wang is survived by her son and daughter.

As a child, I had fond memories of her and my cousin visiting us in the states. I remember taking road trips together; showing them the Grand Canyon and Las Vegas back in the 80’s. Auntie Wang was my mom’s oldest sister and she was always kind and nice to me as a child. My mom would tell me stories of how Auntie Wang would babysit me when I was a little.

Auntie Wang was my only connection to the country that I was born in. I remember in the early 2000s my dad took me back because I have never gone back since I was born. My dad had to run errands so her and I spent some time together. Auntie Wang wanted to show me around town and it was the greatest adventures of my life.

Mopeds – If none of you are familiar with Taiwan, they have a lot of mopeds. When she told me to hop on, I had deep reservations. All I can think is “Auntie is +60 years old and how is she going to safely drive me around … in THAT.” I can tell you it was the best time of my life. It was a thrill zipping around busy streets while dodging buses, cars, and other moped drivers. It’s a memory that I can see and feel to this day.

Street Food – Like most Asian relatives, you know how much they want to push food on you. Auntie Wang was no different. She constantly asked me what I wanted to eat. I always tried to stay polite and not state what I wanted because I didn’t want to be a hassle. So finally, I gave in. I requested fried pork cutlet and beef jerky. Auntie Wang brought back 2 HUGE fried pork cutlets and whole variety of jerky. Oh man, they were so good too! The jerky was bomb too and I left Taiwan with all of it in my stomach.

Restroom Break – Auntie Wang and I had been out for 4 to 5 hours. I needed to use the restroom. Unfortunately, public restrooms are not widely. She pointed just pointed me to a random door. I went upstairs and it was a drinking house with tons of women. OMG, they do exist!! I asked one of the pretty waitresses in my broken Taiwanese where the bathroom was. When I walked out of the building, I was a little sad that I could not stay longer. Thanks for the tease, Auntie.

When someone passes, you always wish you could of spent more time with them. I wish I wasn’t so selfish living my life; now she is gone.

Where am I going with this? I think I wrote this because it helps me grieve. The more important thing is to never forget the family that loves you and have been there for you from day 1. We all get busy with whatever is happening in our lives that we sometimes take family for granted. If any of you are fortunate to have extended family, make sure you tell them you love them as often as you can. Because sadly, you might not get a chance again.

Your sparkle will never fade. We’ll always think of you as you shine bright in the night sky. Love you always, Auntie.

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