2018: Chilaquiles from Anepelco's Cafe

Chilaquiles. It only took me (Ryan) 10+years to try this Anepelco Cafe’s version and have something to talk about with Mr. Don Juan of Taiwan (John). While John is reflecting across the ocean in his homeland of Taiwan during this important time (you’re in our thoughts, brother), Infatchewasian Season 2 is all about comparing and contrasting what’s good in NorCal vs. SoCal.

In this episode, the challenger is NorCal’s (Napa original) spot called Grace’s Table, which I tried, way back in 2014 (I know, I should go back to be fair but the episode sort of wrote itself, *shrugs*). We break down classically how the recipe is, what the merits are between these two, and whether or not we’ll ever go back for seconds.

2014: Chilaquiles from Grace's Table (apologies on the early IG graininess)

Our Food Cred:
Ryan: The Break Dancing Bourdain is a food writer/ex-restaurant/hospitality professional.  Check it out here.
Andrey: Sous Chef 1 has +30 years specializing in consuming Indonesian food and avid cook.
John: The OutEatMeBro Sous Chef 2 was Yelp Elite from 2011 to 2012.  Check it out here.

Our Rating Scale: Each of us have a star that we can apply to our episode’s central theme. With a maximum of 3-stars that can be earned at the most.

  • 1 Star = Our Favorite. Always consistent and willing to go back for seconds or thirds.
  • 0.5 Star = Somewhat inconsistent and on the fence with the quality
  • 0 Star = Forget about it. We don’t even want to go back or resample anything.

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Anyone who has listened to a few episodes of the podcast knows that I can go ad nauseum about my hobbies. I do go over it briefly in defense of it during the episodes, but I thought it might be prudent to actually lay out some of the main reasons I feel so strongly about this. Let’s get right into it.

1. They’re Fun and Rewarding

If you ever thought about picking up a hobby, this is most likely the first reason why. People find hobbies fun because they pique a certain interest that each person has. Or, they fulfill a need that the person has that may be unique to them. Any task or endgame that this hobby has becomes the reward in and of itself. Why wouldn’t you want to do something fun and rewarding?

2. Knowledge Acquisition

Let’s be clear, your hobbies do not necessarily have to define you. However, many hobbies build up certain skills that are useful in both professional and personal settings. These skills can either involve knowledge, motor functions, or executive functions. What do I mean by that? Let’s look at an example.

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Here is one of my oldest hobbies: cars. I love everything about them. They don’t need to be racecars, supercars, or rare vintage. I like all cars, regardless of make or country of origin. This opens me up to learn everything about them. This is the knowledge part. I can have a conversation with anyone about any make or model of a car. Obviously, I know more about some models than others, but I can at least go toe to toe in conversation with anyone about cars. This allows me to build a relationship with anyone who shares this enthusiasm.

This applies to anything. I’m sure it does not take that much imagination to see how a conversation can be driven through common passion or common competency. The more hobbies and knowledge you have, the easier it will be to connect with anyone that you talk to, whether it be romantically or friendly.

3. Skill Acquisitions

Following along the same example of cars, I also like working on them and modifying them. If I know the mechanics of the car, I can most likely work on it to repair or modify it. Working on a car is not only cathartic, but also enhances my motor functions since I’m doing something physical to access certain parts or do dis/re/assembly. Lastly, both working on and driving the car help with executive functions. With working on the car, you’re constantly working on time management and order of operations. It constantly works out your problem solving ability in the process. Driving the car, whether on a track or in a canyon, forces you to make quick decisions and adjustments. I would say that all of the skills attained in this process help to make you a better person.

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If the skills gained are sufficient for a career change, you have that option. This is what happened to me. I was afforded to work at an automotive aftermarket company for 2 years after being in aviation for 3. The benefits from this single hobby have been both professionally and personally rewarding.

4. Making new friends or keeping in touch with friends

Once you’re done with the whole college thing and your time in the party scene is just about up, it becomes fairly difficult to meet new friends or keep in touch with the ones you have. As someone in my 30s, most of my friends are well on their way in both their careers or family building. I’m no exception. Not everyone has time to just hang out and get boba like the good ol’ days. Aside from through work, you rarely meet new people that you actually spend time with. This is where common hobbies come in. It’s a lot easier to prioritize outings that have interesting activities involved. Here are a few examples from my personal life.

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I have friends that I keep in touch with through guns. There is material benefit to going to the range together as we improve our marksmanship. Depending on the group and the range, we can even run drills together to better protect our families should the emergency present itself.

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I have friends that I keep in touch with through cars. Going to the car meet is just an opportunity to hang out and update each other on our lives. We eat together and enjoy each other’s company while discussing cars. This also expands my network for parts and services.

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I have friends that I keep in touch with through board and card games. These 2 individuals in particular have been away from home for a while, 1 for grad school in Asia and 1 for military service. This common hobby just a great way to gather together, catch up, and have fun while they both adjust back to everyday civilian life here in the States.

In each of these hobbies, I get to meet more people. In these environments, you know that you share at least 1 thing in common with them, which makes befriending them much easier than a random person at a your friend’s kid’s birthday party or something like that.

5. Gives you something to do with/without your partner

Sometimes you just need some time apart, but you don’t have to go to the extremes of geographically separating yourselves apart. Focusing on a hobby, even at home, can still offer the benefits of spending time away from your partner. Good examples of this are video games, model building, RCs, art, reading, and playing/making music.

Let’s talk about why this is important. Time apart allows you to take a mental break from the relationship. It allows you to recenter yourself so that you can go back into relationship-mode refreshed and reminded why you’re in it in the first place. It also has the benefit of making you miss your partner. It’s kinda hard to miss someone who’s always there. Missing your partner is important because the mere realization is enough. You don’t miss something or someone that you don’t care about.

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The things I mentioned are often seen as solitary activities, but they don’t have to be. I would say that most hobbies can be shared. Even with art and music, you can dedicate your work to your partner for them to enjoy. The point is that hobbies don’t have to be solitary, they can be converted into couples activities whenever both parties want.


So there you have it. These are some of the reasons why I think it’s important to have hobbies. You have anything that you’d like to add, comment below! Or, feel free to reach me at therelationshipodcast@gmail.com.

-Drey

Remember to always love your family. My aunt passed away on Thursday, March 12, 2018. She was laid to rest on Wednesday, March 18, 2018. Auntie Wang is survived by her son and daughter.

As a child, I had fond memories of her and my cousin visiting us in the states. I remember taking road trips together; showing them the Grand Canyon and Las Vegas back in the 80’s. Auntie Wang was my mom’s oldest sister and she was always kind and nice to me as a child. My mom would tell me stories of how Auntie Wang would babysit me when I was a little.

Auntie Wang was my only connection to the country that I was born in. I remember in the early 2000s my dad took me back because I have never gone back since I was born. My dad had to run errands so her and I spent some time together. Auntie Wang wanted to show me around town and it was the greatest adventures of my life.

Mopeds – If none of you are familiar with Taiwan, they have a lot of mopeds. When she told me to hop on, I had deep reservations. All I can think is “Auntie is +60 years old and how is she going to safely drive me around … in THAT.” I can tell you it was the best time of my life. It was a thrill zipping around busy streets while dodging buses, cars, and other moped drivers. It’s a memory that I can see and feel to this day.

Street Food – Like most Asian relatives, you know how much they want to push food on you. Auntie Wang was no different. She constantly asked me what I wanted to eat. I always tried to stay polite and not state what I wanted because I didn’t want to be a hassle. So finally, I gave in. I requested fried pork cutlet and beef jerky. Auntie Wang brought back 2 HUGE fried pork cutlets and whole variety of jerky. Oh man, they were so good too! The jerky was bomb too and I left Taiwan with all of it in my stomach.

Restroom Break – Auntie Wang and I had been out for 4 to 5 hours. I needed to use the restroom. Unfortunately, public restrooms are not widely. She pointed just pointed me to a random door. I went upstairs and it was a drinking house with tons of women. OMG, they do exist!! I asked one of the pretty waitresses in my broken Taiwanese where the bathroom was. When I walked out of the building, I was a little sad that I could not stay longer. Thanks for the tease, Auntie.

When someone passes, you always wish you could of spent more time with them. I wish I wasn’t so selfish living my life; now she is gone.

Where am I going with this? I think I wrote this because it helps me grieve. The more important thing is to never forget the family that loves you and have been there for you from day 1. We all get busy with whatever is happening in our lives that we sometimes take family for granted. If any of you are fortunate to have extended family, make sure you tell them you love them as often as you can. Because sadly, you might not get a chance again.

Your sparkle will never fade. We’ll always think of you as you shine bright in the night sky. Love you always, Auntie.

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Men are truly from Mars and Women are from Venus. We speak different languages at times along with distinguishable personality traits. One of the biggest traits that men possess is the ability to annoy women. I, John, proudly wear my badge with dignity; though my girlfriend would roll her eyes. In today’s episode, TRP focuses on John Rampton’s “15 Things Men Say That Get on Women’s Nerves” which was published by Entrepreneur. The TRP discusses if we are guilty of using these terms and we try to find a better way to less annoy our counterparts.

Annoying Women: The 15 Things Men Say To Do So Outline

  • The TRP will discuss (1) Guilty of using such term? and (2) How do we improve on our responses?
  • The Terms:
    • 01 “Calm down.”
    • 02 “You look really tired today.”
    • 03 “What is it now?”
    • 04 “Wow! You look great. How much weight have you lost?”
    • 05 “You ate that whole thing?”
    • 06 “Moist.”
    • 07 “You should smile more often.”
    • 08 “That’s not very ladylike.”
    • 09 “You look great for your age.”
    • 10 “Actually, that’s not a word” or “Actually, that’s not how that’s done.”
    • 11 “Listen.”
    • 12 “That’s a man’s job, let me do that.”
    • 13 “At least I never___.”
    • 14 “Why do you always do that?”
    • 15 “Whatever”
  • Did we miss any?
  • If you like this episode, you should listen to Decoding What Guys Say. Do We Mean What We Say? (S1E7)

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Is a Date a Date?  Apparently, not today.  So after production of The Challenging Dating Landscape of Today (S2.Episode 9), Ryan said that people refer to a date as a meet up now.  WTF, right?  I found this to be such an odd thing; the red flag has been raised.  So this is my take on the whole thing.  But be on the lookout for First Dates or First Meet Ups, What Is It Really In 2018? (pending S2.Episode 11) that Ryan will be hosting.

  • This is a confirmed date – (1) When you ask him/her out, (2) When you both confirm a date, time, and place to meet, and (3) When you actually have this date (both parties present).
  • This is NOT a confirmed date – It is never a date until you ask, confirm, and actually go on this date (see This is confirmed date).

Meeting via a dating app – This is a no brainer.  If you guys met through a dating app then it is always a date.  Let me explain.  YOU MET THROUGH A DATING APP.  No one goes on dating apps to make friends or hobby buddies.  However, it is possible that after the date(s) you discover you mutually prefer to be a friends rather than romantic interests.  So I don’t think I need to explain any further because this is fairly obvious.  By the way, how much time you spent with them does not matter.  It can be 2 minutes to 6 hours, it is a date no matter what in this context; never a meet up.

Meeting via mutual friends – Many of you have met your significant others in this manner; me included..  It can be a bit ambiguous here depending on your action or lack of action; so I can see where there can be confusion between “meet up” and “date.”  Here is what you need to do to make it less ambiguous:

  • Ask him/her out – Once you do that, it is quite obvious what your intentions are.  Let me coach you.  Say “You and I should go out on a romantic date.  Say YES.”  If they say yes, than you know they have possible romantic interest in you and want to see where it goes.  If they say no, then they were probably wack anyways.  Just kidding, but maybe I wasn’t.
  • DO NOT USE “Hangout” or “meet up” when you ask – If you use those terms to ask them out, the other person will be confused whether it is date or not–maybe wonder if you are serious.  If you are trying to seek a potential relationship, that is definitely not what you want.  You have to be crystal clear that you want romantic intentions; not friendship.

Red Flag – So in the beginning, I mentioned that people that use “meet up” is kind of a red flag for me, especially when it is done intentionally.  It sounds like they commitment issues or they are just playing the field.  They use those terms in case they get turned down so it wouldn’t bruise their ego.  Plus, if they were “seeing” multiple people, he/she would not have to admit to “dating” other people if they were asked–for fear of being canceled on (aka more bruised egos).  It just feels underhanded and dishonest in my mind.  I feel this way because I’ve heard of plethora of dating horror stories with shady characters.  For me, it wouldn’t be a deal breaker, but I would be very cautious.  I am also bit sad that something like this needs to be covered as an issue; a date vs meet up.

Summary:

  • If you met on a dating app, it’s always a date.
  • To avoid any ambiguity, be clear of your romantic intentions and ask them out.
  • Use “date” when you ask; not “hangout” or “meet up.”
  • You are only hurting your potential and credibility when you use those terms.
  • If you want someone, take action and risk.  Nothing is achieved by doing nothing.

Suggested podcast listening:
Friend (Ship) Defined vs. Friend (Zone) Entered (S1E4)
Ambiguity In A Relationship, Do You Navigate The Fog Or Abandon All Hope? (S2E3)

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In a lot of our episodes, Ryan and John always bring up online dating and new terminology that I’ve never even heard of.  As someone who hasn’t dated anyone new since the advent of the iPhone, I want to know the current landscape of the dating scene. I’m sure we have a decent amount of listeners who are like me as well so why don’t we go over it?

The Challenging Dating Landscape of Today Outline

  • So what is dating like today?
    • Online dating – how does it work?
    • Chronology for different apps
    • Do people still call each other and talk?
  • Do people still ask to be significant others? How do you establish Facebook official? Do you think it’s necessary?
  • So we went over ghosting, but the last time we were together I believe we learned about “stacking.” What is it and have you guys ever done it?
  • What is cushioning?
  • Breadcrumbing?
  • Faux Bae?
  • With all this said, do you guys believe that traditional dating is basically dead unless you lived through it?

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Her: “So, what is a triple threat?”

Me: “It’s when you’re good at three different things?”

Her: “I won’t give you my number, but I’ll give you my address to pick me up?”

Me: “Uhh ok????? *confused by logic*”

I know so you’re probably wondering, how in the hell did this happen?

Let me start off first by saying woman #2 mentioned in quotes, was supposed to be a delayed date for the following week but insisted I meet her the same saturday as woman #1 except in the evening… I’ll get in to that. Let’s start off with the first woman…

I met her on a different dating app and so far, like all first impressions I thought she was pretty cute. Slim, long hair, dark brown eyes, rosy cheeks, the whole nine. I figured why not, give it a shot, after a few messages here and there I noticed she wasn’t from around here. So we planned for a hiking ‘date’ the only reason why I started putting ‘date’ in subtle quotes are because at this point of time, the way ‘dates’ were discussed or planned became very ambiguous. I would say a date to the people I corresponded with, they would say ‘hang out.’ Someone else doesn’t say date, they just say ‘let’s meet and see what happens?’

It was at this junction that I began to believe, are first dates really a thing of the past? (hint: this may be a future episode or article). Anyway, I didn’t let the semantics get the best of me, so I planned on picking her up from one of the station and then we would carpool to our hiking destination. As soon as I drove up the curb, “I saw her except, she looked slightly different from the filters.” (not catfishes but definitely not as rosy). So we talked about our mornings and finally got to the trailhead. It was a mainstream spot, where the ocean met the sky. As we were talking, there was a crossroads and I asked her if she would be up for the challenge. I even warned her, it may be difficult to getting down, she didn’t mind.

As we went began our ascent, I noticed that she kept going behind me despite the trail and coastline being wider than five linebackers. It felt kinda weird and I even told her to go on the side, so I can talk to her and not feel like we’re scanning the Amazonian jungle and covering my flanks. We reached the fake summit and she then responded, it’s getting pretty tough. I told her we can back out, but she insisted and so up we went up the tiny dried up waterfall trail. As we climbed, I noticed she began to slip and I tried giving her some advice (not to ‘mansplain’ but because I had experience leading hikes; if a woman gave me advice and I was inexperienced I would’ve listened). She didn’t listen and her stubbornness began to show, it was admirable but became mildly annoying whenever she screamed and asked why she kept slipping.  We finally managed to climb to the top to see the nice view with a bench peeking out. “I would’ve preferred doing this on my own,” as I thought to myself. No matter, I was already in the moment and there was no escaping the present reality.

At this time of the date, I knew it wasn’t going to work out but I kept going because I didn’t wanna waste my time and feel like I did all of this for nothing. So I did my best to keep the conversation going while we went downhill. Now this is the frustrating part, I constantly reminded her to not rush and just take it slow as we treaded downhill. Did she listen? Nope, she just said kept doing her thing and she almost rolled down the hill like a rogue boulder off the cliff. After another 40 minutes passing we finished our hike and got some food before I dropped her off at the station. I had to take this a hard pass on this one and move onward…

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The second woman, I only spoke with for several days and a lot of the times I like to space things out to avoid any schedule conflicts (like this one that occurred). She insisted on meeting up later on this evening (mind you, I just came back from my mid-afternoon date). So I was mulling it over and I said to myself, “Screw it, what’s the worst that can happen, right?” Spoke too soon, spoke too soon… After exchanging text for the next 40 minutes, I asked her, let’s just exchange numbers maybe FaceTime and see what happens? She then replied, ” I won’t give you my number, but I’ll give you my address to pick me up for a face to face date?”

Huh??? What is this logic??!?!?!? I would honestly think giving a number is much safer than giving home address? Uhh, I thought again for a second time, thinking to myself. “Nah, she can’t be this dense… right?” Wrong again…. oh so very wrong. At this point, as a single guy on a saturday night, if you’re left with Netflix, swiping more potential dates, or drinking yourself to sleep. This attempt of entertaining myself, is probably the best decision I could ever make. I take a shower, hop into my car and pick her up at her place later that evening. So, I’m waiting there and I’m literally the only car with blinking emergency lights on, she then messages me via dating app and says, “Where are you?” I replied, “I’m the only car on the block with blinking lights.” She says she doesn’t see me (seriously, is this going to be an episode of catfish?) I said, “Unless you’re pranking me, I’m at the front of your place.”

She finally comes out and as she entered the car, I remember the power of “MySpace angles.” She looked alright but definitely not the same perspective. Anyway, we got some food and as entered we did the usual “back and form interview routine.” As this point of the story you can probably already tell this wasn’t going anywhere. I’m  trying to constantly improvise my own ‘dating algorithm’ and automating it with my canned responses. This was the beginning of the decline, all the “moments”  began to fade away like defragging a computer hard drive. I realized,  as we grow older many of us use “self love” as an excuse to be obsessively selfish and guarded. The one thing, I have to ask is, “Where does one draw this line?”

We like to bring ourselves up to the highest peak imagineable and unless someone passes our “relationship barometer” we won’t even bother giving them a ladder (or ledge) to hoist themselves if they’re struggling to reach the summit (fall off bitches!). I hear this all the time, through dates/co-workers/people on the street about the struggle of finding good “dates/partners/relationships/etc.” Feminine women do not have this burden as a relationship decision maker (straight or LGBT). The obvious answer is to look at yourself and improve in the areas of weakness (especially if you’re a guy), especially if you suck at life. An alternative would be is to embrace singledom for the rest of your life because nobody else can do it better than yourself. In the meantime, I’ll keep dating (and entertaining) you all until I finally get sick of it.

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I know this list is made kind of backwards, since your venue should be the first thing that you book after you get engaged, but I think it’s more important to have a foundation on understanding your vendors to effectively pick your venue. Let me explain how:

Step 1: Figure out how much space you need.

  • I worded it this way because you do not need to actually book a venue. You do, however, need to be able to accommodate all of your guests. If you have a small guest list, like making your wedding an immediate-family event, then you probably don’t need to rent out banquet space. A nice backyard would be sufficient.
  • The key here is that you need to fit everyone and be able to feed them. If your guestlist is slowly creeping up the double digits and getting into the triple digits, you may need to book a venue.
  • There’s no law that says that you are required to rent out a huge hotel banquet hall and invite everyone you ever met. Small weddings are just as legitimate as large ones.

Step 2: Outside or inside? Combination?

  • Outside weddings, especially during the spring or summer, are sometimes favorable because of the nice weather and added ambiance. However, you have to contend with bad weather if it does occur. Since you normally book months before the event, you’re not going to be able to predict the weather that far ahead. Most outdoor venues have contingencies for things like rain, but it’s still something that may interfere with the mood you’re trying to set.
  • Inside weddings are great to get out of weather. If you don’t care to have a wedding in the spring or summer months, you can potentially save a lot of money by getting married during the low season. If your wedding is indoors, then it doesn’t matter what the weather is like.
  • Note that there are a lot of venues that do combinations. The ceremony can be outdoors, but the reception is indoors. Or vice versa.
  • After you pick a venue, this is one of first things that you need to communicate with your photographer. Outdoor weddings require you to constantly be aware of ambient light and change settings accordingly. Indoor weddings have an entirely different set of challenges.

Step 3: What audio/visual equipment does the venue have?

  • On the audio side, does the venue have a house sound system or is your DJ responsible for providing that? If the venue does have its own sound system, take a picture of the connection to give to your DJ. You’d be surprised how many different types of connectors that audio equipment has (i.e. XLR, 1/4″, speak-on, banana, etc.).

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    Actual picture I took when venue shopping. This picture alone tells me a lot about the venue.
  • On the video side, does the venue have projectors or TVs that you can use? If you plan on showing a sideshow, video, or same-day edit, this is a crucial thing to note. Figure out how you would need to get your media on there. Having a screen built into the venue is a lifesaver for everyone. Otherwise, you’ll either have to source it from an A/V rental company, an event company, or maybe your DJ.
  • What kind of lighting does the venue have? As I mentioned in last week’s article, lighting can make a huge difference. Many venues have lighting solutions built in. This is another thing you need to bring up to your photographer. If the venue is using colored uplighting, you want to make sure that your photographer knows how to shoot with flash. There’s no way around this. Otherwise, all of your pictures are going to be the color of your uplighting.

Step 4: Haggle

  • I guess this isn’t well known, but you can negotiate with most venues, or they can restructure their proposals to fit a lower budget.
  • No venue is “perfect.” There’s always something that you like a little bit more at another venue or could be a littler better. Bring this up to the salesperson. Chances are, the price they quote you is slightly inflated from the start to help buffer later negotiations. Be honest with them about your budget. Bring up any concerns you have. If they can’t meet your budget, they’ll more than likely meet you somewhere in the middle.

Step 5: Profit

This one isn’t as detailed as the other posts, but that’s because there’s actually a lot of preference involved in this one. I’m just bringing up some of the aspects that I feel a lot of people overlook.

Anything to add? Leave a comment below! If you have any questions, send them my way at therelationshipodcast@gmail.com. I may not have all the answers, but my wife-to-be is actually a wedding planner, so I can always ask.

Happy hunting!

-Drey

 

 

I personally am not picky at what and where I eat at. There is always something on the menu that I can consume and be content with. However, the female gender is a finicky creature. “Most” women consider themselves to be “foodies” [*eye roll*] aka food snobs. Don’t hate because you know it’s true. The XX gender believe they have a more refined palate and they must make the dining experience exquisite but very Instagram worthy as well.

So guys I’m here to provide you pro tips on how to make the choice of a restaurant as less excruciating as possible. Everyone knows when your significant other tells you she is hungry and the dreaded “Where should we eat?” comes up. Depending on how “refined” your babe is the process of choosing a place to dine can be quick or lead to white boarding the choices with Pros and Cons. Hopefully, my tips can help the process become more efficient and lead to eating.

Let’s not get it twisted. The choice will NOT be YOURS, guys. Women always win out in the end.

Dining Emergency List – If you have ever been in a relationship, the “Where should we eat?” always comes up.  So like an earthquake, you must be prepared. You will need to have 6 places pre-selected in your memory banks. If you bookmark them on Yelp that will help tremendously. Plus, when she sees you looking on your phone it gives the impression you are trying. You should always have 3 places where YOU enjoy eating at. You will also need to have 3 places SHE enjoys eating at.

The First Response – This is a VERY critical moment. Your first answer as well as your nonverbal cues matter.  (1) As soon as she asks, you MUST reply immediately, (2) Look her dead in the eyes, (3) Say with confidence, “WE are going to Popeye’s Chicken for some bomb fried chicken, honey cakes” [Obviously, you insert one of the 6 memorized places you chose], (4) DON’T YOU DARE BREAK EYE CONTACT till she says “Yes.” It is important to note point (3) when I emphasized “WE are going …” You are taking charge of the situation and have made a executive decision; some women like their men to handle it. Now if you had given an answer as a question (ie. Can we go to Popeye’s Chicken?) then you are giving her an option to say “Yes” or “No.” By making the choice for her, you are taking the “No” option out.

The Counter Proposal – If she says okay from the The First Response, you are golden. More often than not, there will be a counter offer. If she does not like your first choice (or the other 5), the memory banks will be going into overdrive in her head. She will likely counter with another restaurant option. If she provides an alternative restaurant then you have reached the finish line. Restaurant picked and it’s time to shovel food down your throat.  Gooooaaaaaaaaaalllll!!

In my relationship experience, this can be applicable to business as well, when you quickly put an option on the table; people are more likely to take quicker actions on it. By submitting a solution, it forces the other party to decide to (1) go along with it or (2) come up with a solution of their own. The quicker you initiate action, the quicker the ball gets rolling. You are welcome.

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“To be honest I am no body special. I’m the few that choose to pursue what I love, which is painting & photography. Hope you enjoy my creative work and gain something from it.” –Reibot

Raymond aka Reibot Art (IG: R3ib0t) is a creative artist through and through, from battling against (and along side) his crew Squishy Docious (Facebook, Twitter) in the art of Bboying  to his current medium using acrylic paint, aerosol sprays, and origami paper. His consciousness breaks through multiple creative boundaries. Currently he is an exhibitor through the Artscape Riverside Council for the Spring-Summer 2018.

Art and the Creative Process with Reibot Outline

  • What is your definition of art?
  • What inspired you into creating this type of art and how?
  • Currently as an artist your forced to tread the fine line between passion and profit, how do you maintain a healthy balance?
  • What relationships in your life inspire you to create on this type of canvas?
    • Do you feel it’s necessary to have a substance or remain sober as a creative artist?
    • In a monogamous relationship, do you feel one of you has to have a stable income/lifestyle or can both individuals in the relationship pursuit artistic endeavors without conflict of interests?

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