Scared To Date, Cheating On Husband, Date Like A Man – S3E69

Scared To Date, Cheating On Husband, Date Like A Man

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Podcast episode 69 is titled Scared To Date, Cheating On Husband, Date Like A Man. TheRelationshiPodcast gives advice to people that write in. The big disclaimer is that they did not write in to us. Yes, we will be giving our 2-cents on all your love problems whether you like it or not. Doctor Ryan, Drey, and John are in the building.

Scared To Date, Cheating On Husband, Date Like A Man Outline

  • J Topic: I’m Around A Lot Of Women
    • Summary: Not sure about dating and everything else.
    • Question: Should I eliminate dating completely?
    • Submitted by: Derby Girl
  • A Topic: I Want To Cheat On My Husband
    • Summary: I am married, but I want to be with my ex.
    • Question: Should I work it out or do what I want?
    • Submitted by: What I Want
  • R Topic: They Say I Date Like A Guy
    • Summary: People have told me that I date like a man.
    • Question: What is this notion that a woman would “think like a man”?
    • Submitted by: Seeking Emotionally Stable Lumberjack
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Roommate Issues, Marry Me Now, Used For Sex – S3E68

Roommate Issues, Marry Me Now, Used For Sex

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Podcast episode 68 is titled Roommate Issues, Marry Me Now, Used For Sex. TheRelationshiPodcast gives advice to people that write in. The big disclaimer is that they did not write in to us. Yes, we will be giving our 2-cents on all your love problems whether you like it or not. Doctor Ryan, Drey, and John are in the building.

Roommate Issues, Marry Me Now, Used For Sex Outline

*Please be advised that S3E69 will be the last episode of the TRP forever (Releasing 07/01/19)

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Modern Morals, Would You Rather, Wedding Traditions – S3E67

Modern Morals, Would You Rather, Wedding Traditions

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Podcast episode 67 is titled Modern Morals, Would You Rather, Wedding Traditions. I discuss people’s view on morals today, Drey runs through some “Would You Rather …” relationship scenarios, and Ryan speaks on wedding traditions.

Modern Morals, Would You Rather, Wedding Traditions Outline

  • J Topic: Public Opinion on Morals Today
    • I was reading an article from the Pew Research Center on modern morals (A Barometer Of Modern Morals). Pew Research Center took a surveyed on 10 behaviors to determine if it was morally wrong. I will only focus on 3 of them.
    • Married people having an affair.
      • Morally wrong: 88%
      • Morally acceptable: 3%
      • Not a moral issue: 7%
      • Depends: 1%
      • Don’t know: 1%
      • Q1 Any surprises here?
      • Q2 Would these results differ if the person was separated?
    • Telling a lie to spare someone’s feelings
      • Morally wrong: 43%
      • Morally acceptable: 23%
      • Not a moral issue: 26%
      • Depends: 6%
      • Don’t know: 2%
      • Q1 Any surprises here?
      • Q2 Any scenarios that you think it would be morally acceptable to lie?
    • Sex between unmarried adults
      • Morally wrong: 35%
      • Morally acceptable: 22%
      • Not a moral issue: 37%
      • Depends: 2%
      • Don’t know: 4%
      • Q1 Any surprises here?
      • Q2 Does anybody really care anymore if people are unmarried and fornicating?
  • A Topic: Would You Rather …
    • Last weeks episode was dark so I thought we should do a fun and lighthearted one. When I’m drinking with my friends, we love playing “Would you rather…” It’s simply a game where you come up with a hard hypothetical decision and ask your friends what they would do in that situation. It’s not only a fun game, but you learn a lot about the people that you play with. You see how they think and what they prioritize. In the game, you have to choose 1 of the answers and give your explanation as to why you chose that way.
      • Would you rather …
        • Be in a bad relationship for the rest of your life, or never have another partner again for the rest of your life?
        • Have a jealous partner that is willing to be your complete sugar mama, or have a trusting partner that you share all responsibilities with 50/50?
        • Date attractive but stupid or unattractive but intelligent? By unattractive, I simply mean someone that you are 0% attracted to.
        • Find true love, or find a suitcase with $20M?
  • R Topic: A Variety of Wedding Traditions
    • For those of you who saw the IG stories, Kundai (friend of the Podcast and guest host on our Facebook Dating Episode) now getting ready to get married. Being the best man, I wanted to prepare and see if there were any wedding rituals people do today (besides the bachelor/bachelorette party of course covered in this episode) and here’s what I came up with.
    • What type of wedding traditions are important in your culture?
    • What’s the coolest (and/or weirdest) wedding tradition you’ve been apart of?
    • What’s one traditional wedding tradition you’d change?
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Shuffle Around Life: Chapter 14 (Wildcard): The Best Man Speech and Reflection

What’s up Shuffle Around Life Readers!

This is a super late post but for good reason, a lot of what’s been going on this past week was tied to a great friend of mine Kundai and guest host of the podcast. I was asked to become the best man and like all best men before me, had to write a speech about why my best friend (and his now wife) are such an awesome duo.

So for those who weren’t in attendance but would like to get a hint as to what I wrote, here it is, please enjoy…

 

 

 

“8.2 Seconds *pause*, that’s how long it takes for a man to fall in love. Don’t Google it now (put your phones away), it’ll kill my speech and some of you will drunkenly berate me later for providing fake news. I’m just kidding.

However there is some ring of truth to that, when I first met Kundai it took 10 seconds before we offered each other a beer. Ever since then, many more drinks and discussions were had, all thanks to our adventures in life.

Kundai is quite the character, he is a contrarian and is self-proclaimed as ‘fly’ with his sense of style and knowledge of botany. He roams the earth to uncover the beautiful details of nature, even if it means going off the beaten path once in a while. Speaking of path, it wasn’t until one day he told me crossed paths with a lovely lady named Clarissa that his world started to slowly change.  Clarissa’s vibe totally complimented Kundai and in some cases amplified the love they shared with the world at large.

Both have confided to me, on separate occasions that one wouldn’t be able to live without the other. It was then, I knew that somehow this would evolve into a beautiful union of kindred spirits. Thank you Kundai for being an amazing friend (and brother) to me all these years. Clarissa, I am thrilled to consider you my newfound sister in in this journey we call life. I’d like to end this speech to a toast to everyone in attendance, the family and friends who are here with us far and wide. Bonds that are revisited and hopefully renewed, as Oscar Wilde once put:

“Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation. “

Btw, Kundai thanks for finally admitting that I am the best man!

 

Sharing A Room, Social Media Posts, Sacrifice – S3E64

Sharing A Room, Social Media Posts, Sacrifice

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In podcast episode 64, it is titled Sharing A Room, Social Media Posts, Sacrifice. I want to discuss if there is etiquette for sharing rooms, Andrey dives into social media oversharing, and Ryan wants to talk about sacrifice.

Sharing A Room, Social Media Posts, Sacrifice Outline

  • J Topic: Hey, So Can We Share A Room?
      • When we were college students, we did not have a lot of disposable income (unless that FInancial Aid check cleared). So if a group went on vacation, a shared room was commonplace. Now that we are 30 or 40-somethings, is this no longer an acceptable practice?
        • Scenario 1: In my late 30s, one of my friend’s suggested that we get our own rooms for a guys Vegas trip. Reasoning was because we were adults, it’s weird that guys share a bed, and we can afford to do so now.
          • What are your thoughts on this?
        • Scenario 2: My girlfriend was on a trip with her girlfriends and a male friend (late 50s) asked to stay with them. They agreed, but my girlfriend thought it was inappropriate.
          • How do you guys feel about this?
        • Scenario 3: Going to Chicago with some friends (1 guy and 1 lady). We discussed getting a room together–2 beds. Because this has been on my mind lately I told him that it would be fine if I got my own room in case the female does not feel comfortable sharing a room. He asked me “Do women get weirded out by that?”
          • Was I right about suggesting that?
        • Scenario 4: Spur of the moment trip to visit you–out-of-town friend(s).
          • If they ask you to stay at your place, do you allow it?
          • If you go visit friends, do you ask to stay at their place?
        • Are we at a place in our lives now that we should all pay for own lodging instead of share?
  • A Topic: Should I Have Posted That?
      • Like I said in my positive note, I went off-roading this weekend. What I didn’t mention was part of the reason for the trip was because I needed to do a photoshoot for work. Because of the nature of what I shoot, I’m unable to release the photos or post them on social media in any way. It doesn’t really bother me because I tend not to post anyway, for better or worse. But, I know that a lot of people struggle with this. So, I figured we should talk about it.
      • Have you ever posted something on social media that you realized afterwards wasn’t appropriate?
      • Like I mentioned on previous episodes, I only post vacation pictures while I’m on the vacation if I have someone watching my house. Do you ever feel like it’s a problem when people know where you are? Do you take any preventative measures to secure yourself from those that may want to do you harm?
      • How do you feel about parents that constantly post pictures of their kids along with their names? Do you feel that this is dangerous, or just a sign of the times?
      • Are there any other social media faux pas that you can think of that piss you off?
  • R Topic: What’s The Definition Of Sacrifice In 2019?

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Shuffle Around Life: Chapter 12 (A, K, Q): Learning to Say NO (a tight rope perspective) When Necessary

Hello TRP Shuffle Around Life Readers!

Here’s something that’s been on my mind for a while and needed to vent about this and it’s about the importance of Saying No, to things.

You see in recent years, even with my “transition” there are things I do outside of writing columns, conducting analysis, troubleshooting and more on the TRP like everyone else. One thing that’s made me very certain is an essential life skill is SAYING NO WHEN NECESSARY.

What do I mean for this?

Everyone is familiar with the concept of time and how it’s probably the single most valuable asset you have as a human being. Let’s break down how this looks….

The breakdown will be by day, year, and week (all adhering within a 24 hour period):

In a Single Day:

  • 86400 Seconds
  • 1440 Minutes
  • 24 Hours

In a Single Week (7x the values):

  • 604800 Seconds
  • 10080 Minutes
  • 168 Hours
  • 7 Days

In a Single Year: (52x previous values):

  • 31,449,600 Seconds
  • 524, 160 Minutes
  • 8,736 Hours
  • 365 Days* (366, give or take a day or two because of leap year and axial tilt/speed)
  • 52 Weeks
  • 12 Months
  • 1 Year

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*(Reading this post will probably take 2-3 minutes at most and for that, I am truly grateful for you sharing your time with me)

All these increments should give you an idea of how much time is so valuable. And yet, with everything going on in your daily life you have to wonder, is there really time to do everything you ever wanted in your lifetime? The answer is no, NO, no, NO. You will be pulled in all kinds of directions and a lot of times, what you will fulfill for one party will not make the other happy.

Recently, I’ve been going through that, working on this podcast, working on another side project, handling property management, and then of course career hunting. All of these balls juggling in the air, the answer should be relatively simple, focus on the things that matter to you (and are a priority). Furthermore, the more pragmatic approach is, focus on things that have an ROI (personal, professional, emotional, or financial). The problem with this is what you may think is ROI , people will ALWAYS DISAGREE WITH YOUR PRIORITIES and you deem is ROI. They will make their case and claim why their priorities are much more important than your own. THEY WILL NOT CARE, REMAIN SELFISH, AND CAN ONLY LOOK AT THINGS OBJECTIVELY WHEN SHIT HITS THE FAN FOR THEM.

For those who see it in this matter, I say a big FUCK YOU. I’ve always tried to understand it from the other side of the picture. In fact, if tomorrow weren’t guaranteed and any of my colleagues or friends (can’t move forward with me). I will not hold them to it walking away and diverting on what’s important to them, that’s just a fact of life.

Do you need money to support yourself but your passion project isn’t doing shit for you?

Take a step back and take the time needed to re-evaluate, before jumping back on the horse.

Are you slammed at work in that you don’t have time to do any creative stuff on the side?

Don’t trip, recharge and come back when you’re ready. The difference between working for a paycheck versus working for a passion, is the willingness to put in as much as you can even without stability.

However for those I didn’t mean to hurt (or de-prioritize) and had to say NO to, I am deeply Sorry. It was never an easy option and quite frankly if it were, then chances are I don’t care about you as much as you think I do.

Majority of the time, people would rather do passion work that provides a sense of security in their lifestyle (and perception(s)) in society. However majority of the world, doesn’t have that luxury to exercise such an approach. People take unstable jobs just to pay the bills. Whereas the wealthiest individuals own as much as half of the poorest of the entire world’s population.

Overall, people should be more understanding of each other’s time and priorities in one’s life. When you do realize this need for compassion, you’ll realize that even your impact in the world is but a millimeter of a Domino in the entire universe’s history of existence.

-RM

Shuffle Around Life: Chapter 10 (8, A, Q): Clean Up and Knowledge Series Part 3

What’s up everyone reading the Shuffle Around Life!

Several things to reference before we get started:

For those who wanted to learn the origins of this series, I highly, HIGHLY suggest you start from the beginning when it was the TRP Single Life” with Part One listed here.

Second, if you enjoy the deviation of article series check out the Dating App Series by starting here.

As mentioned in the previous article is the beginning of the Knowledge Series, we first start with the topic of “Knowing” and what it means to research and “Know” what to do next, if you want a recap, you can start here.

And now, onto the topic on hand!

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So we already covered the first two elements described so you’re probably wondering why separate refinement from execution and mastery? Well for starters, you have to go back to my previous example about cooking. You see majority of the people in the world, can follow the first two steps. However this 3rd step is probably more relevant to those who enjoy the hobby of cooking at home, outdoors, or professionally (fine dining, catering, etc.) The great thing about refinement is finding your personal groove (by that I mean tempo), nobody can replicate this groove for this task because some people do things differently compared to others. For instance, my writing style and how I space out writing this series would be different compared to John and Drey (my other co-hosts of the podcast).

Their personal tone (and storytelling ability) is vastly different you can see examples of this here (by John) and here (by Drey). You can ever go further with this and listen in on the storytelling set by one my favorite Marketers Seth Godin, who created the Akimbo podcast about the applications of business, the intricacies of creativity, and how it’s applied to the world at-large. You see, although we started doing storytelling here on the TRP for the past year, Mr. Godin has been doing it for several decades. His verbal acuity when describing social phenomenon is what sets him apart from many other marketers in the game. This isn’t something that can be built overnight, this can only be done through constant trial and error of execution.

However that’s not to take away from my colleagues and their personal skills of refinement. Drey comes from a similar background and every week when recording the podcast, he uses his audio palate to adjust and present our episodes from a clean canvas into a finished product. This spills over into his DJ’ing, Photography, and many more things that are set to his arsenal. John on the other hand, despite his out of pocket commentary, knows when to push people’s buttons (even when it gets too far). His trolling goes beyond the norm but it also reflects in his nature of refinement in creating the interactive videos, soundbits, and TRP memes you see on our Instagram account today.

Look around you in life, what are some of the things you (or your peers) are passionate about? Is it something a bit more artisanal, like woodwork? What about cosplays? Or even making the most *fire emoji* edits on a Youtube video? These are avenues in which we invest our time and energy, the constant iteration of anything we involve ourselves with. In corporations, when your company (and managers) set goals, there’s a quota set on your productivity and output but what mostly isn’t measured is effort. The blood, sweat, tears, and frustrations going into learning how to deliver (whatever it is that’s necessary).

“People in 2019, don’t care about effort enough “

Yet without this important element of the human condition, nothing would manifest or come to creation. Landmarks like the Sistine Chapel, Pyramid’s of Egypt, or something as epic as the Avengers Assembling…

via GIPHY

Wouldn’t be paramount to what we would consider as an epic blockbuster of a movie. Another way of looking at this is the ongoing work of a relationship. Is it enough to remember just your significant other’s birthday? Favorite Boba Drink? No, there will be times you will make hard calls (whether its for easy tasks or challenging ones) to create a more memorable experience for you (and your loved ones). We as a society have become more selfish in 2019, then ever before, don’t believe me? Look at your phone and all of the applications you downloaded. See the people who: follow you, retweet, share, comment, criticize, screenshot and etc. Your worth as a human being is only as good as the reputation that proceeds itself.

“Everything needs to have an ROI on the surface and yet the fundamental truth is human beings have conditions to crave unconditional desires.”

  • As an employer, I need loyal employees to succeed and build my business, otherwise I will fire them (unconditional loyalty)
  • As a co-worker, I need my colleagues to bust (or cover my ass) otherwise I would look down on them and gossip (unconditional support)
  • As a partner/S.O. in a relationship, I need them to pull their (financial and emotional) weight and make me happy otherwise I’ll threaten leave (unconditional love)

The idea of the ‘unconditional’ being possible is only through the low-risk efforts (and tasks) conducted by those willing; E.G. Giving someone anything because we have an abundance, pets comforting us in our time of need (when human interaction is empty), etc. We find ourselves yet again “refining” our definition(s) of core values, based on these “unconditional” scenarios and yet, we don’t invest much effort into this area of well-being. We’re all “too busy” making money, spending time with friends, traveling the world, to see what’s going on to the world at large.

As you can see, refinement isn’t just the application of constant effort and time invested. Refinement is, finding purpose in ourselves and expressing that purpose through the various tools and mediums we use in everyday life. Refinement should also be about consciousness of the world around us and tailoring ourselves to become better to one another (and our resources). Lastly, refinement is a constant variable (like time) because you’ll never know when one day, you can become: a work of art, a glorified war hero, or to be remembered for something greater…

via GIPHY

To Be Continued….

Another Session Of The TRP Love Advice Column – S3E57

Another Session Of The TRP Love Advice Column

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TRP listener and friend, “Ross,” contacted the TRP a few weeks ago. Ross needed love advice regarding someone he loves and could see himself spending the rest of his life with. His issues are topics that the TRP have discussed before, but in real life issues tend be multilayered. The TRP doctors attempt to provide love advice issue by issue.

Another Session Of The TRP Love Advice Column Outline

In Ross’s words …

I’m in love with a girl. We have been in a long-distance relationship for a year now; “Rachel” lives in West Virginia and I reside in California. I met her at my cousin’s wedding; her best friend married my cousin. We fell hard for each at their wedding and our relationship blossomed soon after that. We traveled to be with each other as much as we could from that point on.

However, the long-distance was taking a toll on our relationship. We had discussions regarding moving to be with each other, but it does not seem right for us right now. Rachel does not want to leave her family in West Virginia; though she does not rule out doing so in the future. It would be difficult for me to leave California because I have a home here and also my dog. This really bummed me out because I was confident we would be married within a year’s time if one of us did move.

Sometime in February, I freaked out. We ended up mutually agreeing to breaking up. I felt like I was being impulsive and did not completely think it through. At the time, I thought we should break up because one of us will eventually get hurt as the long-distance takes its toll.

A month later, I still feel Rachel is the greatest woman I’ve come across. I consider myself to be a macho man and don’t express my feelings very well. I reached out recently to express myself because I do not want to give up on what we have. It takes two people to work it out. Rachel told me she is in pain about how things were and are now. Am I being dumb? I feel in my heart this is The One and I’m afraid of being 80 years old on my deathbed regretting just saying bye.

Is it illogical or stupid to carry on then, without a plan at the moment? Love is love, and sometimes it punches you in the gut. It’s been a wild ride and my therapist asked me if I regret it. I’m willing to continue the long-distance relationship even though I know it will be tough. I’ll have to see what she says.

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QFA: The Quest For Answers Featuring Dr. Events [P2]- S2E27

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Welcome to Part 2 of Quest for Answers featuring Dr. Events (Elaine). Elaine joins the TRP staff to continue our relationship talk. Elaine brought her own questions that she would like answered from the male perspective. If you guys missed Part 1, you should definitely listen to Part 1 prior to Part 2. To those that are jumping in now, here is a quick synopsis: It is fortunate we have Dr. Events, Elaine, to be our female panelist to represent her whole gender. I believe Elaine could provide great insight into this because (1) female perspective, (2) 20-something demographic, and (3) the industry that she works in. Elaine is an entrepreneur and wedding event planner so she must have a wealth of knowledge from working with partners as they work to their big day. Today, Dr. Events and the TRP will take the journey for our Quest For Answers.

QFA: Quest For Answers Featuring Dr. Events Outline

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The Engaged Life #9: Perception of Career

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Setting up for Big SoCal Euro in 2015. It was a 14 hour day in 95 degree weather.

Hey all. This one is going to be a short one. Like I mentioned on the podcast, I’m in the middle of a job hunt and filtering through the offers I am getting. I know I’m fortunate enough to have multiple offers to have to filter, but it’s still something that I’m not taking lightly.

I’ve actually mentioned this in every one of my interviews, and my priorities have changed significantly since my last job hunt, which was about 5 years ago. It’s quite surprising to me how much things can change in such a short amount of time. I’m still young enough to pull long hours and neglect my personal life in exchange for riches, but I don’t want to be that person if I also want to start a family. Those 2 philosophies are in direct conflict with one another.

As I’m filtering through my job offers, I’m actually considering things like % travel, title, commute, hours, stress, and office culture. In my 20s, I didn’t care about any of that. I didn’t mind 50% international travel. I’ll gladly take a lower title if I still get paid more. I don’t mind the overtime as long as it helps me get on the path to better pay. For a good year and a half, I worked 2 jobs and pulled 60 hours a week easily. Don’t get me wrong, that life is exciting. Being constantly busy is great at that age. It keeps you out of trouble. It also helps keep your vices in check the sooner you start using the money you earn towards it. Can’t afford the clothes you really want because you spent it on beer and cigarettes? Too bad, looks like you have to wait until the next paycheck and cut back on stuff you don’t need.

Fast forward to now, I’m still as much of a salesman as I ever was, but there’s been a shift in attitude. Lower stress is important. Less hours is really important. I’d rather not do overtime for the sake of wages, I’ll do it for the sake of saving time later on in the week. Staying domestic is really important. I grew up with a dad that was gone up to 6 months a year for work. I have really close friends that have to say bye to their newborns for weeks at a time for work. Traveling for work sucks too. I’d rather not have to if I don’t need to. Stability. Comfort. Flexibility. These are the key factors for me now.

Unlike my other posts, this one isn’t so much any advice I can give or any theory that I have, insomuch as insight into what’s going on in my head right now. Maybe if you’re reading this you can reflect on how your perception of career has changed, new grad until now.

As always, please comment and subscribe! I can always be reached at therelationshipodcast@gmail.com.

I hope you enjoyed and have a great weekend!